More Than Just "Please" and "Thank You": Social Skills Milestones

We all want our kids to be kind, make friends, and play nicely. But social skills, known clinically as pragmatics—are much more complex than just saying “please” and “thank you.” Pragmatics involves understanding speaker-listener intentions, reading non-verbal cues, and navigating the environment surrounding a conversation.

If you are worried that your toddler isn’t playing with other kids at the park, take a deep breath. It might be totally age-appropriate! Social play develops in stages, just like walking or talking.

Between 1 and 2 years old, children typically engage in “parallel play”. This means they play near other children but not necessarily with them. They might be in their own world, perhaps imitating an adult or another child, but they aren’t collaborating yet.

As they move into the 2 to 3-year-old range, you will see shifts. They begin to watch other children and briefly join in play. This is also the age where they start to defend their own possessions (the famous “mine!” phase). While frustrating for parents, defending toys is actually a social milestone!

It isn’t until ages 3 to 4 that children typically begin taking turns and playing cooperatively. This is when they start asking permission for items and engaging in dramatic play, acting out whole scenes with peers.

Understanding these stages helps manage expectations. However, if your child shows no interest in social interaction, rarely makes eye contact, or has difficulty with transitions, these can be red flags. We can help support their social growth through targeted therapies. If you have concerns about your child’s ability to connect with others, please Contact our office to discuss how we can help.